The Perfect House

Stop looking for the perfect house.  It doesn’t exist.  If a house meets all your needs, it likely pushes your budget.  If it doesn’t push your budget, there’s likely a catch (did a previous inspection fail? Is there a mysterious smell?).  If it’s affordable and there’s no catch, it’s because no one else wanted to pay more, which may effect resale value some day.

Rather than looking for the perfect house, you need to find the perfect house…FOR YOU!

Like the great Sean McGuire says in Good Will Hunting, “Let me save you the suspense, she isn’t perfect….The question is whether you’re perfect for each other.  That’s what intimacy is all about.”

Great movie, by the way.

If you’re buying a house to live in, intimacy is the way to think about it.  This house will see you naked every day.  The neighbors will hear your arguments (if you have neighbors).  You’ll make acquaintances and (hopefully) friends on the block.

When you are at home, picture what this will be like.  Do you WANT these people to be your friends? Will it feel comfortable showering with (for example) an open window in the bathroom?

If it doesn’t feel like home, it’s not home.  If it does, it does.

It’s easy to get caught up in town name.  Commack, Northport, Greenlawn, Dix Hills, Smithtown.  All that stuff fades into the background once you move,  It’s the house, the block, the pizza place that define your life there.  Choose carefully.

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